Neurodiverse couples therapy.
Neurodiverse couples therapy
Both of you are exhausted. Neither of you is wrong.
What it is
An honest space to do the actual work.
Most couples who arrive here are not in a bad relationship. They are in a relationship where two nervous systems are organised so differently that they keep colliding and neither person can quite see why.
I work with neurodivergent couples one or both partners with ADHD, autism, AuDHD or another form of neurodivergence and the partners trying to understand what is going on. Often, both partners arrive feeling like the one who is the problem.
This is the work of making sense of the pattern. Not assigning blame. Not fixing one of you. Understanding the dynamic well enough that you can both move differently in it.
This work provides exactly that space. We talk about what’s actually happening, with a qualified, experienced therapist not someone who will flinch or rush you.
I work with individuals and with couples. With heterosexual and LGBTQ+ clients. With anyone whose intimate life is causing them pain or confusion they would like to be different.
Who it's for
This work is for you if…
- The same argument keeps repeating
- Different triggers cause large emotions for the two of you
- One partner feels like they are doing everything emotionally
- The parent-child dynamic has set in and neither of you wants it
- Rejection sensitivity is driving conflict on one side
- Sensory and sex differences need a different kind of conversation
- A late diagnosis of either of you is reshaping everything
Areas I work with
Areas I work with
- ADHD and neurotypical couples managing different paces
- ADHD and autistic couples navigating very different emotional and sensory styles
- AuDHD and neurotypical when one partner is both
- Couples where both partners have ADHD
- Couples navigating a recent diagnosis of either or both of you
- Couples who never seek therapy but want to understand each other better
- LGBTQ+ couples with neurodivergent dynamics
- Parents of neurodivergent children needing couple-level support
Qualified, experienced and not neutral
Qualified, experienced, and not neutral.
I am a BACP registered therapist with specific training in psychosexual and ADHD work. I won’t pretend to be neutral about neurodivergence both partners are neurodivergent in their own way, and both deserve to be understood on their own terms.
I work psychodynamically, drawing on practical tools, structure, and clear communication — not endless reflection alone. Most neurodivergent couples find this combination is what actually shifts things.
I am also a member of the Society for Psychotherapy, Relationship and Sex Therapy and I hold a special interest in working with intersectional identities.
I work with neurodivergent couples one or both partners with ADHD, autism, AuDHD or another form of neurodivergence and the partners trying to understand what is going on. Often, both partners arrive feeling like the one who is the problem.
This is the work of making sense of the pattern. Not assigning blame. Not fixing one of you. Understanding the dynamic well enough that you can both move differently in it.
This work provides exactly that space. We talk about what’s actually happening, with a qualified, experienced therapist not someone who will flinch or rush you.
I work with individuals and with couples. With heterosexual and LGBTQ+ clients. With anyone whose intimate life is causing them pain or confusion they would like to be different.
How it works
What sessions actually look like
Method
The consultation call free, 15 minutes
We talk about what’s bringing the two of you in, the format I work in, and decide whether this feels right. No pressure, no judgement, have a chat.
Method
First sessions finding the shape
The first 2–3 sessions are about mapping out what’s happening, on each side. I’ll bring up patterns we’re noticing.
Method
Understanding what's happening
Once we understand the pattern, it becomes a thing the two of you are working on together not something one of you is doing wrong.
Method
Working towards change
The actual work is small, regular, repeatable. Most neurodivergent couples shift the dynamic noticeably in 8–12 sessions.
What you'll leave with
You'll leave the work with:
- ADHD and neurotypical couples managing different paces
- ADHD and autistic couples navigating very different emotional styles
- Couples where both partners are ADHD
- Couples after a recent diagnosis of either of you
- Couples in low-grade therapy before things become acute
- LGBTQ+ couples in neurodiverse dynamics
- Parents of neurodivergent children needing couple-level support
Fees
What it costs
Individual session
£120 / £130
weekday / weekend
Couples session
£250
Single focused intervention
Payment by bank transfer or card · Cancellation requires 48 hours notice or the full session fee applies.
Common questions
Frequently asked questions
Do we both need to be diagnosed?
No many couples come in with one partner diagnosed, one suspecting, or both self-identifying. We work with what’s actually happening.
What if one of us doesn't want to do this?
I’m happy to speak to either of you for a consultation. Sometimes one partner needs to know what the work involves before they agree to start.
Will we talk about sex too?
Only if you want to. I’m also a psychosexual therapist, so intimacy is something I’m trained to work with but we don’t push there.
How is this different from regular couples therapy?
Most couples therapy treats both partners as essentially the same. Neurodiverse work doesn’t and that difference matters.
Can we do this online?
Yes most of my couples work happens online and it works very well, with stable internet on both sides.
How long does it usually take?
Most couples meaningfully shift the dynamic in 8–12 sessions. Some stay longer for deeper work.
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